Sobbing in church yesterday I realized that we are THAT family. The family on Facebook with the story. And I cried. Hard. I haven’t been THAT family before. I’ve always been the reader, the pray-er of someone else’s hard road, the cheerleader, or the crier … I read the requests for prayer. And I pray.

We are THAT family, now.

A month ago my husband, Dan, had a few migraines in a short period of time so we figured he should see a neurologist. We were anticipating the just-a-migraine talk and we’d be on our way. After a precautionary MRI, we were shocked to hear that they found a mass. A tumor. What does this mean for him? Our family? We proceeded with a biopsy and here are my husband’s words :

“The preliminary report from the biopsy is that is is a low grade Astrocytoma. However, it was sent off to neuropathology experts at the University of Washington to know definitely. What does a low-grade astocytoma mean? From my understanding, these have a much better prognosis. Low grade means it is not very aggressive (it grows very slowly). Low grade astrocytomas are Grade I or II. This is in contrast to Grade III-IVs which have significantly worse prognosis, from life expectancies of 6-30 months in many cases.

What does this mean for me? From my understanding, the initial treatment for both low and high grade astrocytomas is similar and results in a resection of that part of the brain. With high grade tumors, the resection is followed by radiation and chemotherapy. With low grade tumors, the resection alone may be enough.

These low grade tumors are known to convert to high grade at some point and so that is why they recommend being aggressive early on with the surgical resection. These increase life expectancies dramatically (10-20 years). The tumor is in the right temporal lobe. One of the common treatments for patients with epilepsy that have seizures is a resection of a portion of the temporal lobe. These patients supposedly recover well with negligible loss of mental capacity.

So all in all, the prognosis sounds good, although it looks like we’ll still have some procedures and milestones to progress through over the next few months and year. As we are in the middle of a move, we’ll know more once we get to San Antonio and meet with the neurosurgery and oncology staff there to discuss the best approach for this particular case.

As always, we’re in God’s hands, which is the best place to be!”

Did you see the comment about being in the middle of a cross-country move? Yep, we leave WA in 11 days. Needless to say, this has been a crazy last few weeks. I walk around my house saying, “packing, and Texas and tumors, oh my”. Not to make light of it, but sometimes I say it to keep from crying (which I have already done, a lot). As if moving isn’t hard enough – leaving amazing friends, a great church, and a life we’ve grown to love the last 5.5 years – now we have a significant health issue with terms like ‘life expectancy’.

I can’t say I haven’t wondered or straight up asked God, “why?”. It is so easy to get caught up in the moment by moment. Boxes are being packed, we are leaving all that is familiar and I don’t know what tomorrow holds, for any of us. I am afraid. I can’t be in control, of any of it. I am u n c o m f o r t a b l e. Right now, the only constant in my life is God. And He, in his amazing grace, has given us peace. The kind I can’t explain. My husband’s strength doesn’t waiver in this place of uncertainty because his strength doesn’t come from the “treasures” on this earth. His hope is found in something bigger. I learn from him, every day. I make it a priority to remind myself of the promises of God the very minute fear begins to creep in. I recite verses I have memorized over the years. I talk to Him. And I walk through the long list of happenings over the last 2 months and praise God for the unforseen blessings behind all of them. For example, finding the tumor in my husband’s brain. We have learned that this tumor has nothing to do with his migraines. In fact, he has no symptoms from this tumor whatsoever. Had he not gone in, we would not have caught it this early. I could go on …

So yes, we are THAT family. We need your prayers.


1. For healing. Dan experienced significant vision loss when he had the biopsy. Would you please pray for healing? And why you are at it, pray for complete healing of the tumor! 🙂

2. The move – protection, extra grace and love for the tears that will inevitably be shed {by all family members}, for our housing to line up quickly on the military installation, and for patience as being in a car for long periods of time can get you know, um, crazy!

3. For wisdom on how to proceed with Dan’s treatment.

4. Most importantly, that we would keep our eyes fixed on things above.

Ephesians 4:13 – 20 – When I think of all this, I fall to my knees and pray to the Father,the Creator of everything in heaven and on earth. I pray that from his glorious, unlimited resources he will empower you with inner strength through his Spirit. Then Christ will make his home in your hearts as you trust in him. Your roots will grow down into God’s love and keep you strong. And may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God. Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think.

Thank you so very much.

When I started this blog so long ago it was to tell the story of how God is shaping and sanctifying me in this crazy life. He is not done yet. I will keep you posted as our journey continues. For now, I will leave you with the closing song at yesterday’s church service. How fitting. And, exactly why I named this post “Faithful”.



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32 Responses to Faithful

  1. Melinda Wochner says:

    Oh, KC! My heart hurts for you, Dan and the kiddos! I was tearing up reading your post… I will definitely pray the prayer requests that you have listed! Prayers for healing and peace that only God’s loving hands can provide. Love – Melinda

  2. Cherish says:

    KC- I was filled with compassion for your family when I read this post. May God be your strength in this time of uncertainty. He is our one constant and I am so thankful your faith. I will be praying that God will draw you even closer to Himself and to each other. Thank you for sharing the specific requests. May you find rest in God’s grace!

  3. Ed & Ginny Wargel says:

    Sending prayers to all of you today & always!!

    Love U Lots!!

    P.S. Happy Birthday (on Friday) Dan!!

  4. oh kc! praying for you and your family sweet friend!

  5. Brian Pattison says:

    KC, I love your response to the challenges you face. I have a real peace about Dan and the move. Since accepting Christ as Lord of my life 35 years ago, He does “grant us peace”, not secular peace or world peace, but peace in our hearts. James 1:2 talks about being content in all situations; even those that seem unfair. He hasn’t let me down and I’m confident that His love covers any outcome and He loves us…that is more than enough for me!
    Love, Dad

  6. Jennifer says:

    I’m so sorry to hear about Dan. Our family will be praying with you and for you as you guys face this really difficult time. Lots of love to you. xoxo Jen

  7. chrissi says:

    you have shown so much grace in your posts. you have said the words that i needed to read and hear. from my family to yours…prayers. so many prayers. ♥

  8. James says:

    KC – praying for God’s strength and comfort and peace, as well as for God’s mighty power, intense loyalty, and perfect compassion to be clear and manifest in your lives now and in the days to come.

  9. kathy jones says:

    Precious KC, I am so sorry to hear you are having such challenges at this time but yes, Our God is faithful and HE will see you through this and yes HE will get the glory. I will be praying for you and your family and thank you for sharing this today. May God’s eternal peace and joy be at the center of all your lives as you walk with courage knowing Our God Reigns. Isaiah 57:18 was prayed for Dan today.

  10. says:

    KC – We have been praying for you, Dan and the family daily. I know that God is covering you with His comforting arms. The peace that you are feeling is His presence. I have loved being able to experience growth within my faith through you, your family and this blog. Thank you for sharing your story with us and allowing us to pray for you. We love you and are looking forward to seeing you soon.
    Keep looking up and He will never let you down.
    XO – Dacey & Mitch

  11. Steve Moore says:

    K.C., NaevEnya gave us the news. We are thankful, like you, that right now it looks like something that can be handled. At the same time, we’re frightened for Dan – and you and the Rhon-lets – too. Princene and I prayed immediately, and we will continue!

    I keep thinking of how we all worried (to be honest) and prayed when Dan was deployed to Iraq. God brought him home safe, and, while He doesn’t promise a given outcome, He’s still the same God!

    Love, Uncle Steve

  12. Amoreena Fidani says:

    KC, I love your authencity, grace, and resolve. I’m not surprised that Dan is remaining strong in the midst of the somewhat scary unknown. Thanks for giving us specific prayer requests; my family will be standing in the gap for yours (as you have done for so many). I’m praying that God will give you His peace that passes your understanding in this crazy time.

  13. Becky & David Hammond says:

    I can’t read this and not pause to just say that we lift you up to our God who doles out his love in ways that are so far beyond our understanding. Your story is storm-filled and peace-ridden, grippingly ugly and painfully beautiful. Thank you for allowing us the privilege to hear from you and pray with you.
    –On the other side of many years, Becky & David

  14. brenda says:

    prayers for sure.

  15. Lindsey says:

    Ok friend…daily prayers, verse on my mirror and love flowing your way daily! Words will never be able to express what’s in the heart.

  16. Krista Montgomery says:

    KC-I will be praying for the requests you listed on a very consistent basis. God is faithful. I know he keeps his promises. Stay encouraged and keep hope. Much love to you and your family, Krista

  17. paige says:

    sweet kc. my goodness. i’m thankful that it’s so treatable and STILL PRAYING for quick and full healing of the vision and full healing of the tumor. praying wisdom & discernment for doctors. peace that passes ALL OF OUR understanding for you. gosh. thank you for sharing your heart. you’re in my prayers!!

  18. Sue Christianson says:

    Praying!!! We serve a miracle working God!!

  19. Jenny Mullins says:

    KC, just read your post and I am crying tears with you. Praying for grace and strength as you move and for God to lead your family and give you comfort during this season. Thanks for sharing this part of your journey and allowing us to join with you in prayer.
    May you experience grace upon grace in this season of trial!
    Love, Jenny (Getz) Mullins

  20. Melanie says:

    Wow. What an encouragement you are to those going through something similar. I think being translucent through such hard times is what the LORD means by fellowship with one another. We are one body, and like it’s says in Ecclesiastes, there is a time to mourn,laugh, dance but He encourages us to do it together because that how He created us and sent us His Son to set that example for us. Jesus was alone only to be in prayer with his father. He, even just before his finally days before his crucifixion was translucent with his disciples and asked them to pray for him. Praying for your family dear sister in Christ. It takes strength to talk about such things and probably will help you get through some days. Keep us posted!

  21. Maureen Smith says:

    I will keep you all in my prayers. My best friend has a brain tumor that is inoperable she has had it now for a few years and thank God it has not grown. I will pray for strength for you K. C. Healing for Dan and a safe move for all.

  22. Ellen says:

    Profound words!
    Keeping you close to my heart no matter how far you go.
    I will not stop praying and believing for God’s power to empower and impress!
    We love you all!
    Love, Ellen,and family

  23. Ken and Margie McLeay - New Zealand says:

    Hello KC. Margie and I lived in Shell, Ecuador, when Dan was a boy. I was Dan’s teacher for several years. We both are touched by the journey you are travelling and offer our love and prayers for you both as you keep trusting in our loving and mighty Heavenly Father! Ken McLeay.

  24. Sheri Finlayson says:

    Sweet KC and Dan, your strength and confidence on Lord encourages me . My heart breaks knowing the tough says you have right now yet your strength and faith ae a testimony of your walk with The Lord. We are praying for complete healing and for your move. As always that The Lord goes before you and protects you. Love you

  25. Erin Weaver says:

    Hi KC, we’ve never met but please know we are praying for you guys. We are praying for complete healing, amazing doctors, a smooth transition, and for peace and rest in the midst of chaos. I’ll be following the blog. Please pass on a big hug to Dan. A huge network of missionary families are sharing your story and praying.

  26. Libby says:

    KC, I am so moved by your words. I am so deeply sorry you’re going through all this, but also so thankful you’re leaning on Him and looking up. Big hug and thanks for posting this. I will certainly be praying.

  27. hannah says:

    sweet friend. i am praying for you all.
    love you! XO psalm 28:8

  28. Sherri says:

    Following your blog from Texas and I am so sorry. It stinks to be THAT family. I am praying for complete healing….I don’t live in San Antonio anymore, but I did for 3 years and it is one of my most favorite towns in Texas and I’ve lived in all the big Texas cities. It may not be your favorite when you get there because it will be OH-SO-HOT, but trust me, it is a great little town. Check out Big Mama’s guide to San Antonio today!

  29. pam says:

    Just found your blog via IG and felt moved to comment once I read this post. We have been THAT family as well and I will be praying BIG prayers for you, your husband’s healing and your faithfulness as you go through this difficult time. My husband was diagnosed with Stage 3 colon cancer 13 years ago, at the young age of 32. I was you, a young mom with four kids under 10 and saying to myself after a bad day, ” Well at least we have our health.” And then thinking, “Wait, no, we don’t. We don’t all have our health.” How did that happen? We were too young to be saying that! But then I realized that, yes, I still had MY health to help my kids through this hard time, and my kids were still all healthy. And that God gave us the grace of a doctor with a hunch and new treatments to keep my husband alive. There was much to be thankful for in the midst of all the anquish. We went through surgery and 8 months of difficult chemo and all that comes along with that and we were blessed all along. My husband is alive and healthy and my kids are amazing. It hasn’t been easy but He has been with us every step of the way. Last summer we loved from CA to TX and I can assure you, you will see God’s grace in that as well. It is a wonderful state, with wonderful people. I hope that your move went well and you are embraced by God’s love in your new home and know that others are praying for you.

    • Sanctified Pearl says:

      Just re-reading this tonight and am so grateful for women like you that bring encouragement to me. Thank you for sharing your story. Blessings, KC

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  31. Kate says:

    Found you from Paige in the middle of the night when I can’t sleep. Am now taking this time to pray for your dear family.

    We have been “that family” as well, only with our newborn baby. Our son was born with a congenital heart defect, then as a result of the stress on his body from his surgery at a week old, his brain filled, and I mean, filled, with blood clots. I remember sitting stunned after a long day at the hospital. We had been told to gather our family and say our goodbye’s. There was no way to treat such a delicate problem for treatment alone would kill him. I remember saying something to my mom about that and she replied, “God can blink his eye and this can all be gone.”

    People flooded the heavens with prayers for our sweet boy. And now, in just a few days he will turn fourteen. This is only one instance where the doctors story was completely different than the story that God had written for him.

    Tuck that in the back of your mind for those days that you would rather not have. God is the ultimate healer for your husband and His knowledge of what is going on in his brain is vastly different than what the doctors can see. I know you know this and are now living this. But sometimes it’s nice to hear it again.

    But most importantly, praying for you and your family. For complete healing here on earth for your husband. For wisdom for his treatment plan, for your move and for strength to get through this battle. Praying you always feel His comforting arms around your family. That you have an awesome support system surrounding you at all times.

    Flooding the heavens with prayer for YOUR family!

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