A Special Thank You

Hi Blogland! I haven’t visited you in a while. I suppose you could say I have been enjoying summer to the fullest. Or maybe I was a little burned out. Or maybe a little of both. I really love blogging and though I was not actively writing, I was actively living and listening with intentions of sharing some of the weaves and turns I have experienced in the last month.

Today I want to write about commitment. What commitment looks like to me.

Are you ready for it?

Happy Anniversary

My parents are celebrating 37 years of marriage today. I feel like a slacker in that I did not buy them a gift. But, I am not sure what to get a couple that has everything they need. No, I am not saying that lightly. They DO have everything they need. For starters, they have Jesus. Both of them. And we all know that is what we all need. Second, they have each other. A partnership. A companion to do life with. There isn’t a gift or a possession that can measure up, in my opinion. There is a sentiment however. And I want to take this opportunity to honor them, sentimentally.

Dad and Mom,

Happy Anniversary, though I am not sure that is the proper greeting on the day you celebrate 37 years of marriage. I believe what I should be saying is, “Thank you.”  You have been on quite a journey. I am sure there were times you wanted to give up or walk away, but you remained. Your faithfulness speaks volumes in this world of broken promises.

So, on your anniversary I am giving you this, a glimpse into the way I view and have viewed your marriage. You may not have known I was watching, but I was. Your example was and is worth more than a thousand words.

1. Work hard.

2. Do not go to bed angry.

3. Go out of your way to do something nice for your spouse {dress up when you pick them up at the airport}.

4. Make birthdays special.

5. Together, co-teach a kids’ Sunday school class.

6. Eat outside sometimes, even if it means moving your entire dining room table to the front lawn.

7. Turn off the tv and talk.

8. Never shy away from surprising the one you love.

9. Take your spouse to visit his/her family.

10. Build a home where the family room is connected to the kitchen {if you build it, they will come}.

11. Be alert. Safeguard your marriage.

12. Love your children’s children.

13. Ask questions about the day.

14. Hug each other, a lot.

15. Go to church.

16. Surround yourself with like-minded couples and their families.

17. Laugh. And make your spouse laugh {dress up in pajamas and show up her workplace with donuts}.

18. Buy a Jacuzzi.

19. Take road trips {lots of time to talk}.

20. Encourage each other’s strengths and help in their weaknesses.

21. Volunteer. Preferably something that your kids are involved in.

22. PDA in a happily married couple is not a bad thing, even if your kids say, “Gross!”

23. Make your home available.

24. Advocate for a cause.

25. It is okay to spend money at times, especially when it aids in the making of memories {vacations}.

26. Take up an activity you both enjoy doing together.

27. Quitting isn’t an option, in sports or in marriage.

28. Pray together.

29. Hold hands.

30. Go camping.

31. Love Jesus.

32. Write notes. They serve as a great form of communication.

33. Fold clothes for each other and empty the dishwasher, just because.

34. Do not make big purchases without your spouse’s consent {i.e. a trampoline}

35. Have late night talks.

36. Go get ice cream.

37.  Be willing to be inconvenienced if it means seeing family {long drives, late nights, little sleep}.

Again Dad and Mom, thank you. Your 37 years of commitment have impacted my life is so many ways. It isn’t always perfect, but you never give up and that means more to me than you’ll ever know.

I love you both dearly,



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4 Responses to A Special Thank You

  1. Lynda says:

    Great list and great that you recognize the achievement. Your parents have set a legacy for you to follow. Your parents probably also had the following – as a 32-yearer (marriage), I would add:

    Co-parent children with unity and a set agenda. Many marriages fail not because of the children’s fault, but because of disagreement in how to raise the children, taking divided sides, one parent slacking off or being absent etc.

    Each spouse should have a hobby that he/she could do on their own, one that would be suitable to continue into older age. A partner does need “their own” time and many times lack of a hobby can cause issues, particularly cognitive issues at an older age.

  2. Mary says:

    38. Tell your children that you “were glad they came to live with you”.

    KC : You are their legacy. They have done a wonderful job. Congratulations on their wedding milestone. Be “joyful” today.

  3. Debra says:

    Ahhhhhh – what a wonderful post!! I agree with everything you said! We have been married for 35 years and we are proud to see that their parents see our commitment! It is sad but too many of their friends come from broken homes. But our attitude and mind set is that we are “stuck” with each other!!!

  4. Angie shanks says:

    KC, I’ve been subscribed to your blog for many months now. Have enjoyed, been challenged by, and inspired by each and every post. Thank you for taking the time to do it (and I know it is a sacrifice of time!). This one made me cry, and I know your momma is just crying her eyes out reading it. May it be so with us when our children are grown. A good thing to have in the forefront of my brain during daily life–what am I impressing on them…what will they take away? Blessings to you and your family.

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