Renovations….

It seems there have been a lot of renovations around here. We recently had some cabinets put in under our stairs and I am well, in love. They are are great for storage and will help keep our home a bit more organized!

We have also been in the front yard planting, transplanting, and adding some new foliage to “yesterday’s” dormant spots. I absolutely love being in the garden and can’t wait for everything to bloom….in its time.


….some delicious peonies from the yard….

And then, there is another type of renovation that has taken place recently. The renovation of my heart. And if it were a Facebook status update it would sound like this, “Renovations are never easy, especially when it is your life.” Let me explain. Hubby and I took an amazing trip to Maui about a month ago. It was a much needed break, a great chance to reconnect, and it gave us the opportunity to finish the sentences we haven’t finished because of many children underfoot. Over the course of that week, we relearned some things about each other that had taken a back burner. We realized that we had in fact put the kids in the center of our relationship which was something we had never wanted. It was time to take our marriage back and pursue it with the same fervor we had committed to 10 years ago. For me, it means asking for help which is extremely hard for me to do. I am so used to being with the kids all day that I just go on autopilot and don’t ask for help. Honestly, I don’t get it all done in one day {whatever the “all” is} and then I spend my nights tying up loose ends when I could be hanging out with hubby. And so, we are adding more chores to the kids charts. I am making a list of the things I want to get done during the day, the absolutes and the maybes and then letting the maybes go. And lastly, it is putting my phone down and my computer to sleep when hubby and I have precious alone time. Wow, technology is fabulous and I love it, but it can seriously steal me away. Hubby deserves more.

Also being renovated is my mommy style. I wrote this post about narcissism recently and the topic has not left my mind yet. I suppose that means God still has work to do. I am a stay at home mom. Most days I really like my job. Occasionally, I LOVE my job and then there are the days I wish I could do something else. I know that sounds bad, but I think many of you could relate. I forget how blessed I am. I have three amazing children that have special talents and abilities. Their minds are sponges that are anxious to soak up anything they hear, both good and bad. My home is a place of refuge and safety from the cold world, but it is also a classroom and I am a teacher. No, I don’t homeschool but I am the one that spends most of day with them. I have countless opportunities to teach them. For some reason, I have lost sight of that in the last two years.  Instead of spending time investing in my kids, I feel as though I spend all day seeking a little break for me. A chance to “escape” my job and crawl into a little whole {technology makes this really easy}. Don’t get me wrong, for sanity sake we all need a break at times, but have you ever flopped into bed at night and had to ask for forgiveness because you knew that you didn’t do your job well that day? I used to ask for forgiveness a lot and then it got to the point that I stopped asking for forgiveness not because I gave up, but because I settled for it as the new normal. That is never the normal I wanted in my home. My children are only home for a little while and I want to make the most of time that I have with them. What does this look like from my perspective? More craft time even though it will more than likely destroy my newly mopped floors. Letting the kids “wash” the dishes and get water all over the place instead of turning on a show so that I can do it quickly and then go check my email for the last 11 minutes before the show is over. Include them in my daily to-dos instead of getting frustrated that they are too present and I’m not getting anything done. Spending time outside taking in God’s beauty and keeping my phone in my pocket the whole time. And lastly, taking opportunities to teach them to pray. My prayer life is lacking and this is part of my personal renovation, why not include the kids?

...a prayer book I made with the kids filled with pictures of family and friends....

On paper this seems totally overwhelming and yet I have incredible peace. There is no possible way that I can balance my marriage and my family perfectly. I couldn’t even do it well, but I have a God that has all the strength I need. He promises that He’ll never leave me nor forsake me. He delights in me and wants to spend time with me. He loves me and he loves my hubby and our kids. He has great plans for us. These are the promises I hang on to when I feel burdened by our newly renovated life. I spend time with the builder in the early morning while the house is still and quiet. I seek Him and receive the tools I need to LIVE that day! To be present in the moments. Yes, that is it, to be present in the moment and to make the most of those moments.

Renovations are never easy, but the end result is beautiful.

 :: KC ::

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8 Responses to Renovations….

  1. Cynthia says:

    I love love love that prayer book idea. I’m always struggling to “make” time for prayer, especially with my extremely active little boy. But I think he’d love the prayer book and it would be a great thing to add to our daily routine. I would just have to laminate ours, he’s still learning about being gentle!

    • mrskcr says:

      I’ve considered laminating mine, too! Praying with our children is such a precious gift. Keep me posted on this new addition to your daily routine!

      Blessings,
      KC

  2. Cherish says:

    KC-
    This is exactly the kind of mommy renovation I need. Thank you for the honest and thought provoking, convicting post!
    -Cherish

    • mrskcr says:

      I am so thankful to know that I am not alone in this process! We have such an important role, don’t we? God bless you in this season of renovation!

  3. First of all, I love your drawers! Secondly, you are so very wise, dear, to allow the Lord to grow you in these ways. With seven children, I understand firsthand how our hearts can feel like they are being suffocated. He will renew your spirit as you freely give and serve your precious family. He is able to multiply back to us everything we pour out on the altar in worship to Him. Freely loving through works of service brings Him such glory. And the fruit He will bear will make your head explode. We are in a season of harvest as we prepare to “launch” #2, and I cannot begin to tell you the joy that washes over my spirit to see what He has done in my children through my feeble attempts to walk out this job of wife and mother. Thank you for this testimony of His Faithfulness in your life. :)

    • mrskcr says:

      Your words are so encouraging. Thank you for taking the time to write. I pray that one day when it is time for our kids to leave the nest they will know and love our God. And that we, Mom and Dad, keep our eyes focused on the greater things in life; the things that will not fade away.

      Thank you again,
      KC

  4. charis says:

    thank you or being so honest with where you are at – your heart renovations strike a chord with me. maybe it is having a new baby and waking up finally from the pregnancy fog, but i too am feeling many of these changes needed in my life as well right now. i have been asking the Lord for grace to truly choose to serve in this role of mom and wife. i want to pour myself out, like paul did for the churches he served, and do it with joy and not grumbling.

    my recent post: it’s all about perspective

    my recent post: it’s all about perspective

    • mrskcr says:

      Oh Charis, congrats on the new baby! He is beautiful! I feel as though God is touching the hearts of many wives/mothers these days. Remember this, “I lift up my eyes to the mountains—where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.” Psalm 121:1-2

      Hugs,
      KC

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